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    Raising Kids in a Godless Culture: Practical Strategies for Christian Parents

    Rev. David GrayBy Rev. David GraySeptember 30, 202512 Mins Read
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    Let me paint you a picture that probably sounds familiar. It’s Sunday morning, and you’re getting the kids ready for church. Your 12-year-old rolls her eyes and asks, “Why do I have to go? None of my friends go to church.” Your 8-year-old comes home from school asking questions about gender that you weren’t prepared to answer. And your teenager seems more influenced by TikTok than anything you’ve taught them about God.

    If you’re feeling overwhelmed trying to raise godly kids in today’s culture, you’re not alone. The statistics are sobering: research shows that most preteen children are rejecting basic Bible views, with only 60% having read even part of the Bible and just 26% consistently consulting it when determining right from wrong.

    But here’s what I want you to understand after forty years of ministry and raising ten kids: it’s not hopeless. Yes, the culture has changed dramatically. Yes, your kids face challenges we never imagined. But the same God who helped Daniel thrive in Babylon can help your children stand strong in today’s world.

    The Reality We’re Facing

    Let’s be honest about what we’re up against. This isn’t your grandmother’s America where Christian values were generally supported by the broader culture. Studies reveal that most kids who abandon faith do so by age 17, often while still living at home with parents who believe they’re successfully transmitting their values.

    The Cultural Challenges

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    At School: Your kids are learning that there are no absolute truths, that all religions are equally valid, and that traditional moral values are outdated.

    Online: They’re bombarded with content that contradicts everything you’ve taught them about identity, sexuality, purpose, and meaning.

    With Friends: They’re often the only ones in their peer group who attend church or hold biblical values.

    In Entertainment: Movies, music, and social media consistently promote worldviews that are antithetical to Christianity.

    Even at Home: Technology brings the world’s values right into your living room through devices that are more compelling than anything previous generations faced.

    The Stakes Are High

    Here’s what should motivate us as Christian parents: data shows that when a father is actively involved in church, 66-75% of children will continue attending church as adults. When he’s not, even if mom goes regularly, only 1 in 50 children become regular worshipers.

    The influence we have as parents is enormous, but we have to be intentional about it.

    Strategy 1: Build Your Home as a Counter-Culture Hub

    Your home needs to be the place where biblical values are not just taught but lived out daily. This doesn’t mean creating a bunker mentality, but rather establishing a strong foundation that helps your kids interpret everything else they encounter.

    Create Rhythms of Faith

    Morning Prayer: Start each day acknowledging God together, even if it’s just 30 seconds before everyone rushes out.

    Mealtime Gratitude: Use family meals to naturally weave in thankfulness and biblical truth.

    Bedtime Conversations: End each day talking about where kids saw God working or how they lived out their faith.

    Family Worship: Set aside time weekly for singing, praying, and reading Scripture together.

    Make Your Home the Gathering Place

    Instead of being afraid of your kids’ friends, invite them over. Let your home be where the youth group hangs out, where birthday parties happen, where kids want to spend time. This gives you natural opportunities to influence not just your kids but their friends.

    I know a family who decided their house would always have snacks available and an open-door policy. Over the years, dozens of kids regularly hung out there. The parents didn’t preach at them, but those kids absorbed biblical values just by being in a home where Christ was honored. Several of those friends became Christians through that family’s influence.

    Strategy 2: Engage the Culture, Don’t Hide From It

    One of the biggest mistakes Christian parents make is trying to shield their kids from every cultural influence. But here’s the problem: if you don’t teach your kids how to think biblically about cultural issues, someone else will teach them how to think about those same issues from a different perspective.

    Use Current Events as Teaching Opportunities

    When something controversial happens in the news, don’t change the channel – use it as a discussion starter:

    • “What does the Bible say about how we should treat people who are different from us?”
    • “How should Christians respond when others disagree with our beliefs?”
    • “What would Jesus do in this situation?”

    Address the Hard Questions

    Don’t wait for your kids to bring up difficult topics. Be proactive:

    About Identity: “God created you male or female for a purpose. Your identity comes from being His child, not from how you feel.”

    About Sexuality: “God designed sex as a beautiful gift for marriage. The world tries to cheapen this gift, but God’s way protects and blesses us.”

    About Different Religions: “We believe Jesus is the only way to God, but we treat everyone with respect and kindness.”

    About Suffering: “Bad things happen because sin broke the world, but God is still good and has a plan to fix everything.”

    Strategy 3: Model Authentic Faith

    Your kids are watching everything you do. They notice when you claim to trust God but worry constantly. They see when you say the Bible is important but never read it. They observe how you treat people who disagree with you.

    Live What You Preach

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    Show Them How to Handle Stress: When facing difficulties, pray out loud in front of your kids. Let them hear you talking to God about your concerns.

    Demonstrate Forgiveness: When you mess up (and you will), apologize sincerely and show them how Christians handle failure.

    Practice Hospitality: Welcome people who are different from your family. Show your kids what love in action looks like.

    Serve Others: Find ways to help people in need as a family. Let your kids see faith that works itself out in love.

    Be Honest About Your Struggles

    Don’t pretend to be perfect. Share age-appropriate struggles and how your faith helps you through them. Kids need to see that following Jesus doesn’t eliminate problems but gives us hope and strength to face them.

    Strategy 4: Teach Them to Think, Not Just What to Think

    Critical thinking skills are essential for kids who will face constant challenges to their faith. Research indicates that kids need good theology, not just emotional experiences.

    Ask Questions That Develop Thinking

    Instead of just giving answers, ask questions that help them reason through issues:

    • “Why do you think God commands us to honor our parents?”
    • “What do you think would happen if everyone followed Jesus’ teachings?”
    • “How can we know if something is true or just popular?”
    • “What evidence do we have that the Bible is reliable?”

    Study Apologetics Together

    Age-appropriate apologetics helps kids understand that Christianity is not just emotional but intellectual. Use resources that help them understand:

    • Archaeological evidence for biblical events
    • Scientific arguments for intelligent design
    • Historical evidence for Jesus’ resurrection
    • Logical reasons to believe in God

    Strategy 5: Choose Your Battles Wisely

    Not every cultural issue deserves the same level of attention. Some things are gospel issues; others are preferences. Help your kids understand the difference.

    Major Issues (Non-Negotiable)

    • The authority of Scripture
    • The deity of Christ
    • Salvation by grace through faith
    • Sexual morality as defined by God
    • The value of human life

    Minor Issues (Preferences)

    • Music styles (as long as lyrics aren’t harmful)
    • Clothing choices (within modesty guidelines)
    • Entertainment options (that don’t contradict core values)
    • Friend choices (unless leading them away from God)

    The Gray Areas (Wisdom Needed)

    • Social media use and boundaries
    • Dating relationships and physical boundaries
    • Career and college choices
    • Involvement in certain social activities

    Strategy 6: Build Strong Church Connections

    Studies consistently show that kids who remain in their faith have strong connections to a local church community. But not all churches are equally helpful for families navigating cultural challenges.

    Look for Churches That:

    • Teach the Bible clearly and practically
    • Have strong youth and children’s programs
    • Support parents in their discipleship efforts
    • Address cultural issues from a biblical perspective
    • Create opportunities for kids to serve and use their gifts

    Get Involved as a Family

    Don’t just attend church – participate. Let your kids see you serving, leading, and investing in the church community. When they see church as central to your life, it becomes important to them too.

    Strategy 7: Monitor and Mentor Media Consumption

    Technology isn’t evil, but it’s powerful. You wouldn’t let your kids eat whatever they wanted whenever they wanted – why give them unlimited access to media that shapes their minds and hearts?

    Create Media Guidelines Together

    Instead of just imposing rules, involve your kids in creating family media standards:

    • What kinds of content honor God?
    • How much screen time is healthy?
    • What apps and platforms are appropriate for different ages?
    • How do we use technology to serve others instead of just entertaining ourselves?

    Use Parental Controls Wisely

    Technology can help protect your kids, but don’t rely on it exclusively. The goal is to raise kids who make good choices even when you’re not watching.

    Regular Tech Sabbaths

    Consider implementing regular breaks from technology where the family focuses on connecting with each other and God.

    Strategy 8: Prepare Them for Persecution and Opposition

    Your kids will face mockery, exclusion, and pressure to compromise their faith. Prepare them for this reality without making them paranoid or defensive.

    Teach Them How to Respond

    When mocked for their faith: “Jesus said we’d be blessed when people persecute us for His sake. You’re in good company.”

    When pressured to compromise: “It’s better to please God than people. His approval is what ultimately matters.”

    When feeling alone: “Even when you’re the only Christian in your class, you’re never really alone. God is with you.”

    Share Stories of Faithful Christians

    Tell them about believers throughout history who stood strong under pressure. Help them see that they’re part of a long line of faithful followers who chose God over popularity.

    Strategy 9: Address Heart Issues, Not Just Behavior

    Christian parenting is about more than creating well-behaved kids. The goal is heart transformation that leads to genuine faith and godly character.

    Get to the Heart Behind the Behavior

    When your child disobeys, don’t just address the action – address the heart attitude:

    • “What were you thinking when you chose to lie?”
    • “How do you think God feels about the way you treated your sister?”
    • “What does this behavior tell us about what you really believe?”

    Point Them to Jesus Consistently

    Every discipline opportunity is a chance to point your kids to their need for Jesus:

    • “We all sin and need God’s forgiveness.”
    • “Jesus died to pay for our sins and give us new hearts.”
    • “The Holy Spirit helps us make better choices.”

    When Your Kids Struggle or Rebel

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    Despite your best efforts, your kids might still go through seasons of doubt, rebellion, or spiritual struggle. This doesn’t mean you’ve failed as a parent.

    Remember That Salvation is God’s Work

    You cannot save your children. Your job is to faithfully plant and water seeds of truth – God gives the growth.

    Stay Connected During Difficult Seasons

    Don’t withdraw love when your kids struggle with faith. This is when they need your unconditional love most.

    Keep Praying and Believing

    God’s heart is for your children even more than yours is. Trust Him to work in their lives in His timing.

    Get Support

    Connect with other Christian parents who understand your struggles. Don’t try to navigate these challenges alone.

    The Long-Term Perspective

    Christian parenting in today’s culture requires marathon endurance, not sprint intensity. Some days you’ll feel like you’re making progress; other days it will seem like you’re losing ground. That’s normal.

    Focus on Your Influence, Not Their Choices

    You can’t control your children’s choices, but you can control your faithfulness as a parent. Focus on being the parent God called you to be and trust Him with the results.

    Remember the Goal

    You’re not trying to raise kids who never struggle with faith – you’re trying to raise kids who know where to turn when they do struggle. You’re building a foundation they can return to when life gets hard.

    Trust God’s Timing

    Some of the most important lessons you’re teaching won’t bear fruit for years. Keep planting seeds even when you don’t see immediate results.

    Practical Next Steps

    1. Evaluate Your Home Environment: Does your home clearly reflect your Christian values? What changes might help?
    2. Start Family Conversations: Begin regularly discussing cultural issues from a biblical perspective.
    3. Choose Your Church Carefully: If your current church doesn’t support families well, consider finding one that does.
    4. Create Media Boundaries: Establish family guidelines for technology use that protect your kids’ hearts and minds.
    5. Connect with Other Christian Families: Build relationships with families who share your values and commitment to raising godly kids.
    6. Invest in Your Own Growth: Read books on Christian parenting, attend conferences, and strengthen your own faith.

    Hope for the Future

    I want to leave you with this encouragement: God has placed your children in this generation for a purpose. He knew the challenges they would face, and He equipped them to be light in a dark world.

    Your faithful parenting matters more than you know. Every prayer you pray, every conversation you have, every example you set is an investment in their future and in God’s kingdom.

    The culture may be godless, but your home doesn’t have to be. Your kids may face unprecedented challenges, but they also have unprecedented opportunities to make a difference for Christ.

    Keep planting seeds. Keep pointing them to Jesus. Keep trusting God. He’s raising up a generation of young believers who will shine brightly in the darkness – and your kids can be part of that story.

    The battle for your children’s hearts is real, but the victory belongs to the Lord. Parent with confidence, knowing that the same God who has preserved His people through every generation will not abandon yours.


    “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” – Proverbs 22:6

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    Rev. David Gray has been preaching the Gospel since age 15 and has over 40 years of ministry experience. As a father of 10 children and senior pastor, he combines biblical wisdom with real-life experience, helping believers discover the transforming power of worship. His teaching style blends theological depth with practical application, humor, and authentic storytelling.

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