He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.
Proverbs 13:24 · KJV
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KJV

He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

WEB

One who spares the rod hates his son, but one who loves him is careful to discipline him.

Word study

He that spareth châsak H2820
his rod shêbeṭ H7626
hateth sânêʼ H8130
his son: bên H1121
but he that loveth ʼâhab H157
him chasteneth mûwçâr H4148
him betimes. shâchar H7836

Commentary

Matthew Henry

Note, 1. To the education of children in that which is good there is necessary a due correction of them for what is amiss; every child of ours is a child of Adam, and therefore has that foolishness bound up in its heart which calls for rebuke, more or less, the rod and reproof which give wisdom. Observe, It is his rod that must be used, the rod of a parent, directed by wisdom and love, and designed for good, not the rod of a servant. 2. It is good to begin betimes with the necessary restraints of children from that which is evil, before vicious habits are confirmed. The branch is easily bent when it is tender. 3. Those really hate their children, though they pretend to be fond of them, that do not keep them under a strict discipline, and by all proper methods, severe ones when gentle ones will not serve, make them sensible of their faults and afraid of offending. They abandon them to their worst enemy, to the most dangerous disease, and therefore hate them. Let this reconcile children to the correction their good parents give them; it is from love, and for their good, Heb 12:7-9.

John Gill

He that spareth his rod hateth his son,.... Who withholds or withdraws his rod of correction, which is in his hand, which he has power to use, and ought to exercise at proper times; he, instead of loving his son, may be said to hate him; for such fond love is no better than hatred; and, if he really hated him, he could scarcely do a more ill thing by him than not to correct him for a fault; which was the sin of good old Eli, and both he and his sons suffered for it;

but he that loveth him; that has a true love for his son, and a hearty concern for his welfare and future good; he will regulate his affections by his judgment, and not give way to a fond passion, to the prejudice of his child: but he

chasteneth him betimes, or "in the morning" (x); in the morning of his infancy, before vicious habits are contracted, or he is accustomed to sinning, and hardened in it; or as soon as a crime is perpetrated, before it is forgot or repeated: or every morning, as Jarchi and Aben Ezra; that is, continually, as often as it is necessary, or as faults are committed.

(x) "mane castigat eum", Munster; "matutinat ei disciplinam", Michaelis.

JFB

spareth--or, "withholds."

rod--of correction.

hateth--or, acts as if he hated him (compare Pro 3:12; Pro 8:36).

chasteneth . . . betimes--or, "diligently seeks for him all useful discipline."

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